Today, I’m starting off with thoughts on marriage! On this day, eight years ago, I walked down the aisle. The day was full of love and excitement and jitters. A beautiful ceremony and celebration marked the beginning of our journey together. But Mike and I laugh today to think of all that we didn’t know about each other back then, and all that we still had to learn about marriage, and about ourselves. We're still learning, of course.
Eight Things I’ve Learned, So Far
1. One of life’s great mysteries, it is impossible to know all that is in store for your marriage. Whether you realize it at the time, you do take a leap of faith on your wedding day. The future, the great unknown, lies before you.
2. You unpack so much more than suitcases when the honeymoon is over. Slowly, gradually over time, you are unpacking your histories. You are laying on the table all that the world taught you so far about communicating, generosity and what love looks like.
3. Together you look at that table, crowded with the best and the worst of what you know, and you decide what fits into your own idea of marriage, and what does not.
4. It’s not easy to change old habits. It’s not easy to be the best version of yourself every moment of every day. But it actually is easy to apologize when you are wrong. And it is easy to forgive if you allow it to be.
5. Just as children pass through their stages of development, we adults continue to learn and grow and change, as well. The ways we choose to accept and nurture each other’s changes are the defining moments of our marriage.
6. An amazing power and freedom comes from seeing yourself in a new, brighter light. Partners who believe that you can shine brighter and do anything are the best kind of partners of all.
7. Strong, happy, healthy marriages require two strong, happy, healthy people.
8. Being strong, happy and healthy requires the conscience effort to be so, and the daily work of living with that goal in mind. (And witnessing that effort, I believe, is what builds an amazing foundation for life for our children).
|Photos by Seth Jacobson Photography|
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